Out of sight, out of mind. The daughter spends 9 months of the year in a different province. Heaven knows what she is up to or gets into. But comes home for the summer, says she'll phone to tell us what is going on, doesn't phone and the mom instincts kick in and I start to worry. Do we ever grow out of that!!!!!
The son finally came out for a short time today. Made for a beautiful afternoon. Add on to that a couple of margaritas and the afternoon was relaxing. Work with cards this morning and the Hamptons school at lunch. Thank goodness this week is over. One more week, and things should be slowing down (in my dreams anyways)
BODY: Still haven't located my pedometer. It was probably stolen (inside joke) I will get on that tomorrow. Lots of moving and bending today (for cards and library at school)
MIND: author unknown Just b/c a child has reached maturity does not mean that they are completely able to fend for themselves or "survive" as you put it. Once you become a mother and that motherly instinct sets in, it's there for life. A mother bear will kill another animal to protect its cub and a human mother can be capable of killing another human who threatens the life of their child at any age. From an evolutionary standpoint, think about it this way: In primitive times, women bore children as early as age 13 (immediately after menstruation began). The reason for this was because people didn't live as long, so people would have kids as soon as possible so they could be there for them as long as nature allowed (the life expectancy at that time was maybe 20 or 30 years). Within that time frame, a mother (and father) had to teach their offspring everything they knew and protect them so that when the parents were gone, the children could survive. The point is that that maternal instinct was there from conception until the mother's death. Fast forward to this century and the only real difference is that life expectancy has increased. So a woman who is now a mother to a 40-year-old man still has every ounce of that maternal instinct that she did 20 years ago. It stays until the mother dies, not until the child has reached adulthood. One more point: nowadays there's a lot for mothers to have to protect their kids from, even in adulthood. In primitive times, it was just a matter of nurturing the child, protecting it and teaching it survival skills. It's still that way in the animal kingdom. But with humans, the problems don't go away past that stage. There's drugs, alcohol, shcool shootings, illnesses, etc. And in some of those cases, the adult "child" is actually not in a state to take care of him/herself. So once again, the mother/father steps in. For instance, if a mother has a 30-year-old daughter that has mental problems, that mother is not going to say...oh well, she's 30 years old, let her fend for herself. It just doesn't work that way. THe child may have all the natural capabilities to survive as you say, but by definition, the mother has even more of those capabilities that she can guide her children through. To make this very brief: the motherly instinct does not go away when a child reaches adulthood; it goes away when the mother is no longer on this earth. "
Makes sense to me.
Good night
Stacey
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